Many people believe that an attitude of self-criticism can spur us on to greater achievements; that it can raise the bar of our striving and encourage us to try harder, make fewer mistakes, be the successful people we want to be.
Unfortunately, more often than not, self criticism tends to stifle our ability to perform the way we intend or reach the goals we hope for. When we succeed amidst negative feedback it’s often in spite of the criticism rather than because of it.
When we are operating under the demands of an “inner critic” we always feel like we’re not doing it good enough. It’s often demeaning enough to make us just stop trying and give up. One solution is to create an image of this critical voice so it becomes more conscious. It may look like a parent or a ball of spikes or something else you didn’t expect. Then, open an imaginary door and ask the critic to wait outside while you continue your project. Notice the freedom as you’re able to breathe and work more freely.
The critic is probably well-intended, but doesn’t really know what you know about how to do what you’re trying to do, whether to write, paint, or build something. Thank it for it’s interest and ask it to wait outside until you’re done. You’re creating a garden of acceptance.