Does Intimacy Enhance Sexuality or Destroy it?
Esther Perel writes in her new book Mating in Captivity that there is a paradox of intimacy and sexuality in relationships. For many people, the paradox is that the more intimate, close and secure we feel, the less erotic desire is present in long-term committed relationships. It raises the question, “What is the meaning of love and sexuality in long term relationships?” Paradoxically, erotic desire often flourishes when there is separateness, a sense of danger, when it is forbidden. It …